Carrie made a domestic abuse report about me, cos i was sending her messages asking for clarification on my half of the house we bought and paid for together (but i actually made it all happen found the solicitor etc).
She didn’t answer. Not answering me is very different from not answering anyone else cos we have an agreement about that. Every day she didnt provide clarity caused extreme distress. She has no excuse cos her daughter is exactly the same, she will start crying if you don’t answer properly. I have the same well known autistic mechanism and i make sure everyone knows it as soon as i meet them, its the first thing i ever said to her. She used that to construct a domestic abuse narrative. But communicating with her was intrinsic to me having a wash, going for a shit and operating the business. There was no way i could continue working on my place without talking to her. She was overblowing shit as well, like she does.
We ran a business together, we bought a house together. She took thousands and sold my music gear to buy it. I basically wiped her ass on everything she felt stressed by, annoyed by, sad by, whatever it was i was there. Looking after her daughter? i was there? nurturing her? i was there. What I came to realise later was she was controlling me by using her anxiety. She would say stuff like ‘ X issue is worrying me, I got to sort this out da de da’ and then the inevitable offer of help from me. She knew i would always help my friends do anything and she used it brutally. We even discussed this explicitly, and i said i have a sort of pathological need to help people i love and i will just do it whether or not its a negative for me or stops me working.
And it did stop me working, i spent most of the time attending to her needs and getting shouted at by her. there were good times as well. i would say it was more good time than not really but according to her now its CONSTANT (insert whatever thing happened once). Her brain is scrambled eggs. i should have never gone to scotland and i never will again.